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Former first lady Michelle Obama recently gave new mom Meghan Markle some heartfelt advice about motherhood while praising the “resiliency” of her own two daughters, Malia, 21, and Sasha, 18.
“Being a mother has been a masterclass in letting go,” Obama told the Duchess of Sussex in an interview for British Vogue released by the magazine on Monday. “Motherhood has taught me that, most of the time, my job is to give them the space to explore and develop into the people they want to be. Not who I want them to be or who I wish I was at that age, but who they are, deep inside.”
She also said that raising the two young women “has also taught me that my job is not to bulldoze a path for them in an effort to eliminate all possible adversity. But instead, I need to be a safe and consistent place for them to land when they inevitably fail; and to show them, again and again, how to get up on their own.”
Meghan served as a guest editor for British Vogue’s September issue, selecting a group of trailblazing women spotlighted as “forces for change.” The magazine hits newsstands on Aug. 2.
Obama, in her interview, also told Meghan that she has advised her daughters to focus less on adhering to a path and more on “trying on new experiences until they find what feels right,” a process she wrote about in her best-selling memoir, “Becoming.”
“Don’t just check the boxes you think you’re supposed to check, like I did when I was their age,” she said. “As a younger woman, I spent too much time worrying that I wasn’t achieving enough, or I was straying too far from what I thought was the prescribed path. What I hope my daughters will realize a little earlier is that there is no prescribed path, that it’s OK to swerve, and that the confidence they need to recognize that will come with time.”
Obama said that if she had sons, her advice “would be exactly the same.”
In her introduction, the duchess praised Obama for her “authenticity,” saying she had not expected the detailed and candid answers to her questions.
“A few ‘simple questions’ (which she could have answered with a sentence or two) were returned to me as a thoughtful, reflective and beautifully curated narrative ― a gentle reminder not of how but of why she has become such a globally respected public figure,” wrote Meghan, who gave birth to a son in May.
“Had I known Michelle would be so generous in making this a comprehensive interview my questions would have been lengthier, more probing, more engaging. I would have called her and included the banter on these pages ― the laughs and sighs and ping-pong of dialogue as I chimed in. But to re-engineer that now would rob Michelle’s words of their authenticity, which, for me, is at the crux of what makes this piece special.”
Read the full interview here.
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The former First Lady is launching a line of clothing covered in her inspirational quotes. By Colleen Kratofil. November 13, AM. FB Twitter More.
INTERNATIONAL Women’s Day is TODAY (March 8), and people across the world will be celebrating, commemorating the movement for women's rights.
It will be marked with hashtags and events across the world. We share some inspirational quotes from powerful women.
The day has been around for more than 100 years and celebrates the achievements of women.
It falls on the same day every year, March 8, and the theme for this year is #BalanceforBetter.
Women around the world, from businesses to charities, unite together.
Large numbers of women take part in marches on International Women's Day - and some years women have even gone on strike.
In 2019 Google Doodle is celebrating International Women's Day with 13 inspirational quotes from women.
Here's some more awesome quotations from famous women across the years...
Born in 1884 she was the longest serving First Lady of the United states, from 1933 to 1945, she was a politician, diplomat and activist. She died in 1962.
“Well behaved women seldom make history.”
An actress, singer and performer, she was born in the US in 1922, and died aged 47 in 1969, but is most remembered for her role in The Wizard of Oz, aged 17.
“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.”
One of the most successful authors of all time writing the hugely popular Harry Potter series, Rowling lived off state benefits before becoming the world’s first billionaire author.
“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”
Born in 1910, she was known around the world for her work with the poor and sick in India, and following her death in 1997 she has now become a saint, referred to as Saint Teresa of Calcutta.
“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.”
Born in 1883 as Gabrielle Bonheur "Coco" Chanel, she was a French fashion designer and founder of the Chanel brand, and is credited with being one of the women to free ladies from the "corset silhouette". She passed away in 1971.
“Elegance is when the inside is as beautiful as outside.”
Born in 1908 in Paris, Simone was a French writer, intellectual, existentialist philosopher, political activist, feminist and social theorist. She died in 1986.
“One is not born a woman, one becomes one.”
Margaret Thatcher, 1925-2013, was the UK’s first female Prime Minister, in office from 1979 to 1990, and is a deeply divisive figure in politics.
“In politics, if you want anything said, ask a man. If you want anything done, ask a woman.”
The LGBT activist is a successful American comedian, television host, actress, writer, and producer.
“Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about knowing and accepting who you are.”
Charlotte, 1816-1855, was the eldest of the three Bronte sisters who survived into adulthood and is the author of classics of English literature.
“I am neither a man nor a woman but an author.”
The first black First Lady of the US, from 2009 to 2017, Michelle has become a role model for women, an advocate for poverty awareness, education, nutrition, physical activity and healthy eating, as well as a fashion icon.
“Success is only meaningful and enjoyable if it feels like your own.”
Oprah is an American media proprietor, talk show host - hosting a successful show of her own name - actress, producer and philanthropist.
“Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.”
Audrey, 1929-1993, is revered as a fashion icon and one of the stars of Hollywood’s Golden Age.
“Elegance is only beauty that never fades”
The superstar, a singer, songwriter, dancer and actress, is one of the best-selling artists of all time and was ranked sixth in Time’s Person of the Year in 2016.
“The most alluring thing a woman can have is confidence.”
The leader of the suffragette movement, Emmeline, 1858-1928, was a prominent political activist campaigning for women’s rights.
“I would rather be a rebel than a slave.”
The 20-year-old was just 15 when she was shot by the Taliban for her activism, and is the youngest winner of the Nobel Peace Prize.
“Extremists have shown what frighten them most: A girl with a book.”
Rosa, 1913-2005, is widely credited with being the "first lady" of the civil rights movement after her refusal to give up a bus seat.
“Knowing what must be done does away with fear.”
Amelia, 1897-1939, was the first female aviator to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean and received the US Distinguished Flying Cross for this accomplishment.
“Women must try to do things as men have tried. When they fail their failure must be but a challenge to others.”
"The people’s princess", Diana, 1961-1997, was well-known for charitable work, notably with landmines and HIV.
“I don't go by the rule book... I lead from the heart, not the head.”
Actress-turned-activist, she has been appointed UN Women Goodwill ambassador and helped launch the UN Women campaign HeForShe, which calls for men to advocate gender equality.
“I don’t want other people to decide who I am. I want to decide for myself.”
The American movie actress 1929-1982, was a style icon and became the Princes of Monaco aged 26.
"I'm basically a feminist. I think that women can do anything they decide to do.”
The American poet, singer, memoirist and civil rights activist 1928-2014 published seven autobiographies, three books of essays, several books of poetry, and is credited with a list of plays, movies, and television shows spanning over 50 years.
"I'm a woman. Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, that's me."
Real name Gloria Jean Watkins, 66, is an American author, professor, feminist and social activist.
"Without justice there can be no love."
The American writer, feminist, womanist, librarian and civil rights activist 1934-1992 is best known for her technical and emotional poetry which expresses anger and outrage at civil and social injustice.
"When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid."
If you need more information on International Women's Day here is everything you need to know.
And if you want to know the history behind the day, or if there’s an International Men’s Day you can find out here.
PM Theresa May has told women they need to be as tough as men in the workplace.
Michelle Obama’s debut memoir, Becoming, quickly became the Bestselling Book of 2018 despite being released mid-November. But honestly, did we expect anything less? A lady of endless class and courage, Becoming is 400 pages of fridge magnet-worthy quotes. But that’s been the case since she entered the public realm a decade ago. Here is a collection of the best Michelle Obama quotes over the years. Also check out this list of recommended reads if you enjoyed Becoming!
“Now that I’m an adult, I realize that kids know at a very young age when they’re being devalued, when adults aren’t invested enough to help them learn. Their anger over it can manifest itself as unruliness. It’s hardly their fault. They aren’t ‘bad kids.’ They’re just trying to survive bad circumstances.”
“Failure is a feeling long before it becomes an actual result. It’s vulnerability that breeds with self-doubt and then is escalated, often deliberately, by fear.”
“I’ve been lucky enough now in my life to meet all sorts of extraordinary and accomplished people…Some (though not enough) of them are women. Some (though not enough) are black or of color. Some were born poor or have lived lives that to many of us would appear to have been unfairly heaped with adversity…What I’ve learned is this: All of them have had doubters. Some continue to have roaring, stadium-sized collections of critics and naysayers who will shout ‘I told you so’ at every little misstep or mistake. The noise doesn’t go away, but the most successful people I know have figured out how to live with it.”
“This may be the fundamental problem with caring a lot about what others think: It can put you on the established path—the my-isn’t-that-impressive path—and keep you there for a long time.”
“If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life, it’s the power of using your voice. I tried my best to speak the truth and shed light on the stories of people who are often brushed aside.”
“Am I good enough? Yes I am.”
“Whether you come from a council estate or a country estate, your success will be determined by your own confidence and fortitude.” —G20 Summit, 2009
“Don’t ever make decisions based on fear. Make decisions based on hope and possibility. Make decisions based on what should happen, not what shouldn’t.” —Campaign trail in Phoenix, 2008
“I have learned that as long as I hold fast to my beliefs and values—and follow my own moral compass—then the only expectations I need to live up to are my own.” —Tuskegee University commencement, 2015
“Walk away from friendships that make you feel small and insecure, and seek out people who inspire you and support you.”
“Success is only meaningful and enjoyable if it feels like your own.” —Oregon State University commencement address, 2012
“You should never view your challenges as a disadvantage. Instead, it’s important for you to understand that your experience facing and overcoming adversity is actually one of your biggest advantages.” —City College of New York commencement, 2016
“Instead of letting your hardships and failures discourage or exhaust you, let them inspire you. Let them make you even hungrier to succeed.” —King College Prep Commencement Address, 2015
“You may not always have a comfortable life. And you will not always be able to solve all the world’s problems at once. But don’t ever underestimate the impact you can have, because history has shown us that courage can be contagious, and hope can take on a life of its own.” —Young African Women Leaders Forum, 2011
“Success isn’t about how much money you make, it’s about the difference you make in people’s lives.” —Democratic National Convention, 2012
“The one way to get me to work my hardest was to doubt me.” —International Girls Day, 2016
“Just try new things. Don’t be afraid. Step out of your comfort zones and soar.” —Howard University speech, 2016
“Failure is an important part of your growth and developing resilience. Don’t be afraid to fail.” —Speech at Apollo Theater, 2015
“Just do what works for you because there will always be someone who thinks differently.”
“Choose people who will lift you up. Find people who will make you better.” —ABC News interview, 2011
“Reach for partners that make you better. Do not bring people into your life who weigh you down. Good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt.” —Address to Elizabeth Garrett Anderson students
“Let’s just be clear, you don’t want to be with a boy who’s too stupid to know and appreciate a smart young lady.” —Speech at Apollo Theater, 2015
“Young people, don’t be afraid. Be focused. Be determined. Be hopeful. Be empowered. Empower yourselves with a good education…then get out there and use that education to build a country worthy of your boundless promise.” —Final speech as First Lady, 2017
“Here in America we don’t let our differences tear us apart. Here in America we don’t give in to our fears. We don’t build walls to keep people out.” —City of College of New York commencement, 2016
“There are still many causes worth sacrificing for, so much history yet to be made.” —Young African Women Leaders Forum, 2011
“Every day, you have the power to choose our better history—by opening your hearts and minds, by speaking up for what you know is right.” —Topeka School District Senior Recognition Day, 2014
“The difference between a broken community and a thriving one is the presence of women who are valued.” —State Department Women of Courage Awards, 2009
“You don’t have to be somebody different to be important. You are important in your own right.” —Let Girls Learn trip, 2016
“Every girl, no matter where she lives, deserve the opportunity to develop the promise inside of her.” —Let Girls Learn trip to London, 2015
“No country can ever truly flourish if it stifles the potential of its women and deprives itself of the contributions of half its citizens.” —Mandela Washington Fellowship address, 2014
“We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own ‘to do’ list.” —via Vogue magazine
“When it comes to mental health conditions, we often treat them differently from other diseases like cancer, diabetes or asthma. Whether an illness affects your heart, your leg or your brain, it’s still an illness, and there should be no distinction.” —Change Direction campaign speech, 2015
“It’s time to tell everyone who’s dealing with a mental health issue that they’re not alone, and that getting support and treatment isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength.” —Change Direction campaign speech, 2015
And, lastly, my personal fave:
“When someone is cruel or acts like a bully, you don’t stoop to their level. No, our motto is, when they go low, we go high.” —Democratic National Convention, 2016
Also, just for fun, let’s throw some (unintentional) shade:
“Being President doesn’t change who you are—it reveals who you are.” —Democratic National Convention, 2012
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As part of CBS News' "Note to Self" series, former first lady Michelle Obama Published Wed, Dec 12 AM EST Updated Wed, Dec 12 PM EST Former U.S. first lady Michelle Obama discusses her forthcoming memoir.
Michelle Obama: Quotes to Live By – Book Review
Michelle Obama: Quotes to Live By
Author – Alex Lemon
Publisher – Carlton Books
Pages – 192
Released – 13th June 2019
ISBN-13 – 978-1787392908
Format – ebook, hardcover
Reviewer – Stacey
Rating – 4.5 Stars
I received a free copy of this book.
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Michelle Obama: Quotes to Live By is a life-affirming collection of over 170 quotes from one of the world’s most admired and respected public figures. As a student, she excelled; as a lawyer, she rose through the ranks; as a mother, she inspired and nurtured two girls; and as the First Lady of the United States, she used her platform to disseminate her strongly-held beliefs.
Intelligence, generosity, strength, bravery, confidence, and hard work are all key attributes associated with Michelle Obama, and this book serves to cement her place as one of the strongest voices on the global stage today. “When you are struggling and you start thinking about giving up, I want you to remember something … and that is the power of hope.
The belief that something better is always possible if you’re willing to work for it and fight for it.” Final speech as First Lady of the United States, January 2017.
Michelle Obama: Quotes to Live By is a small book at just over 14cms in height. If you are someone who likes to carry motivational quotes with you to get you through the day, then this book is the perfect size to fit in your bag.
The book as the title suggests is filled to the brim with quotes from the ex-First-Lady. It is split into six sections:-
– Family & Relationships
Each quote has written underneath it where Michelle said or wrote her words and in which year. There are some amazing quotes in the book, a few I’d heard Michelle say over the years but a lot I hadn’t heard of before.
‘When times get tough and fear sets in, think of those people who paved the way for you and those who are counting on you to pave the way for them‘ – University of California, Merced, commencement, May 2009.
This is a book you can dip in and out of. It is a book that you can randomly select a page and find a powerful quote. You don’t have to read the book cover to cover. You might not find that all the quotes are relevant to yourself – I found a few that weren’t relevant to me, but I still managed to appreciate them all.
If you love quotes and you admire Michelle Obama then this is an amazing book that would be a great investment for you. I say investment as I believe it is a book that will be kept for a long time to come and when you need a little pick-me-up or a bit of a motivational chat, then this book is handy to have available.
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